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National Polka Month

Me and fellow classmate Mike Jones, Students of the Month for April 1962. Student of the Month was a new recognition at our school and I like to think that maybe I helped Dare County embrace this idea since School Board member Ralph Buxton asked me what the pin i was wearing symbolized. He liked the positivity and I like to think that he started this fine tradition in Dare County. Fun fact youngest grandson just received Student of the Month in his classroom.]

This entire post came about after Grandson PJ created a writing competition involving any of the 78 National themes of the month for January that he presented as prompts.

I am quite confident in betting that the polka is not on the life skills resume of anyone else in this writing competition. But it is on mine along with the schottische and other partner dances I have forgotten the names for. They were all a routine part of every PE class. We would line up to get paired off which was the most agonizing part as you had no say in who your partner would be.

This might sound like I am talking about cotillion classes but trust me this is basic PE class. While cotillion is an activity strung out over months where participants do learn dance steps these steps are more along the lines of the waltz or fox trot with the cha cha and a few other Latin dances thrown in for good measure. My corner of the teen world did not involve such high class opportunities as cotillion so it was left to PE classes for us to learn dances with specific steps.

Now my best friend since kindergarten (when I lived in Richmond in a little house which we actually called The Little House behind my grandmother’s house which we called The Big House) whom I kept up with even as my family moved to Texas, Guam, back to Texas and finally Ohio was very much into cotillion with all the social attributes (which went beyond dance steps) as a life skill, or rather her parents were. And so it was that I too got to participate in cotillion.

I feel the need to add an aside here as to how Patsy and I got to be friends because it is a story unto itself. We were in kindergarten together but not in the same classroom. We however did ride the bus together and she decided that we needed to be friends and with her mother’s permission knocked on every door of the huge antebellum houses that separated our homes until she found me. And we became fast friends. I asked her the how of it when we reconnected as adults because I knew that our mothers so vastly different would not have been the common link and she told me the charming story.

Back to the main story. No sooner had our suitcases hit the floor at The Big House than I claimed possession of my grandmother’s one phone to dial AT8-7637 to let Patsy know I was in town for Christmas. Patsy was never one for leaving me behind and she included me in every social activity that came her way. “You are going with me to the cotillion Christmas dance,” she announced. The dance was the culmination of all the weeks of learning dances and manners. I agreed but I had nothing to wear. Mom dug into my Christmas presents pile and brought forth a poodle skirt and dressy blouse. It would do. Patsy let me use her practice nosegay made of ribbons and lace (apparently cotillion had a practice dance before the real thing) while she had a real flower one. And so off we went. It was fun and I could hold my own having learned most of the dance patterns in PE class. But the best part was going to the Clover Room for ice cream afterwards.

Patsy Ann Tyler on the front steps of her house

And finally back to PE classes. Square dancing with do-si-dos and other complicated moves to music played the faster the better was my favorite. Many of my classmates moaned and groaned over learning these partner dances but I knew that one day the skill would come in handy.

As indeed it has quite nicely filled a need for picking a theme to write about with National Polka Month leading the way.

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A Flower by Any Other Name

“Pick it like so. Run your hand down the stem. Then snap. That gives you a long flower for your vase.” My grandmother, Mother Leigh’s, sage advise. And we all paid attention. Her love for jonquils, and us, was strong. She wanted every aspect to be as right as possible.

oakland road daffodils

Our Oakland Road jonquil field.

Recently Emily and Donald chatted via FB about having daffodils in their own yards finally. And how it reminded them of home. Our Richmond home. We lived on an old daffodil farm. Blooms by the hundreds were ours for the picking every spring. Except that one spring when I thought I would be resourceful, and so when pickers came by asking if they could pick for cash I quickly said yes. The house was always overflowing with the bunches and bunches of blooms that we picked. And the fields were still full. But I should have known that they would pick the fields clean. And you only get one bloom per bulb each year. “Mom, where are the flowers?” Emily demanded when they got home from school. No undoing that mistake.

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Three Chopt driveway

I too grew up surrounded by hundreds of jonquils every spring. At Mother Leigh’s Three Chopt antebellum home in Richmond, Virginia. Her semi-circular drive was lined on both sides by the blooms. She had a big aged formal garden in the side yard that in its neglected state grew nothing but daffodils. It was awesome. There was a birdbath in the middle surrounded by four patterned simple mazes defined by raised ground flower beds. The gardener always cut the grass so it looked tended. It just had no flowers except in the spring when it was a blaze of yellow.

Where we live now I’ve tried to get a few bulbs to grow. The moles always thwart my attempts. And I am no gardener. I am an admirer and acquirer. I gladly take garden bounty bestowed on me by others. And I richly admire all gardens with great admiration. It’s the growing that teases me. And so I paint my gardens.

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Stringing Me Along

Nine dimension theory is not new to me. I just never knew what to call it. We watched Interstellar recently. The discussion that followed included conversation about a nine dimension reality, or as Drs. Neppe and Close put it “..we live in a 9-dimensional spinning finite reality, not just our traditional three dimensions of space happening in a present moment of time. The rest of our reality is hidden beyond our direct view.”

Thanks to dynamics from those other dimensions, I’ve been nudged, pointed in directions and saved by the skin of my teeth so many times, I’ve lost count. Starting with showing me how families with balance and stability live. It’s like those fairy tales where the good godmother cannot undo the princess’ bad fortune but can make it better.

Cabell Powell (she lived on the other side of Three Chopt Road), me, Patsy Tyler, my cousin, Jett.

Cabell Powell (she lived on the other side of Three Chopt Road across from me and had an enormous doll house) me, Patsy Tyler. Standing in front of us my cousin Jett Williams.

My early childhood best friend’s family in Richmond, Virginia is where I’m pointed first. She and I become friends in Kindergarten, or Junior Primary 1 & 2, as it is called at our school, Westhampton Junior High School on Patterson Avenue. We are not in the same class but we ride the bus together. Patsy likes me enough to seek me out. (I have only found this out recently. I always wondered how we became friends. Our mothers have little in common.)

We live about a half a mile from each other. Several huge antebellum houses with immense front lawns along Three Chopt Road, a small but very busy city street, create the separation. Her street, Mayfair Court, is a dead end reached by car via a little roundabout. Her neighborhood is a small population of brand new modest houses. Tree lined Kings Way Court with smaller antebellum houses on either side is on the Three Chopt Road side of the roundabout. A cut through city street, Pepper Avenue, lies to the east of Kings Way/Mayfair. To the west and on the same side of Three Chopt Road as Patsy’s house is where I live in a converted garage behind my grandparents’ Big House at 6414 Three Chopt Road. We call our house The Little House. It’s tiny but we have our own address, 6416 Three Chopt Road.

Patsy begins her quest to find me. She is only vaguely aware of where I might live. I get off the bus after her stop. She knocks on every door of those antebellum houses asking if anyone knows me. This is a five year old on her own mind you. (Her mother may have driven her from house to house but if she did I’m confident that she made Patsy do all of the inquiring.) Patsy’s persistence pays off, she eventually does find me. And that is the beginning of our life long friendship. Her family is everything mine is not. I thrive on its calm. I spend the night a lot. We practically pave a path between our two houses through those huge front lawns, or sometimes behind the houses. I’m sure all the maids know our wanderings well. Even after we move from Richmond and I only visit The Big House in Richmond for holidays the first thing I do (literally I make a bee line for the phone) when we arrive is to call Patsy. She always, absolutely always, includes me in anything going on. Cotillion, slumber parties, holiday house parties, school gossip.

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Sandy’s Dad, Enos Winfrey, in a recent photo. He was a pivotal engineer in central Ohio for the Eisenhower interstate project.

My next nudge toward a realistic family life is in the direction of one that this time, I am drawn. We are living in Ohio by now. I see this soon to be forever friend, Sandy Winfrey, and her family at church. It is a new Methodist church and, prior to building, is meeting in the Etna Road Elementary School a half block easy walk from my house. Mom goes to the services some of the time. Sometimes twelve year old me goes by myself. Sandy’s family intrigues me. In an uncharacteristic move for me, usually very shy and retiring, (a nudge you see) I introduce myself and ask if I can sit with them.

Sandy and I hit it off. We become inseparable. We delightfully discover that both our families even spend Christmases at our respective grandparents’ homes in the south. Her destination is Winston Salem, North Carolina. We compare tales about the endless car ride that includes crossing over the Blue Ridge Mountains on narrow roads (no interstate yet) to grandmother’s house and back again.

Again this family is everything mine is not. Over the next several years, until we head off to different colleges and my family moves back to Virginia, I become even richer in good family dynamics.

I have learned the fine art of playing and partying sans drugs and with only a social drink or two from my parents. This is one of their finest attributes. They both have the ability and confidence to be the absolute life of any party sheerly on personality. And I have learned how to steer a family through the everyday, all the while making it fun, from my two strung together families. I am a fine blend.

 

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